Perfect Perfection

April 14, 2015

Do you like it when everything goes as you plan, things fit as they should and you make all the right decisions leading to the results you want?  Do you expect perfection from yourself and others?

My personality may fall in this category;) but I have learned to give myself and others some grace. Especially as a trainer, I’ve learned that perfection does not exist and I cannot expect it from clients or myself. One of the biggest lessons I think we as humans, especially those with a “Type A” personality, need to learn is that perfection is unattainable.  We need to get over the fear of failure and focus on improvement rather than perfection! Check out this great quote from Jillian Michaels.

When we fall or make a bad decision, we shouldn’t let that bad decision keep us down. It can be our tendency to have the “ALL or NOTHING” mentality leading to extreme action. Let’s take this for an example. It’s the weekend and you choose to eat out, eat dessert and drink too may glasses of wine on Saturday night.  Sunday morning you wake up and regret the decisions you made the night before.  What do you do at this point???  (A.) Beat yourself up and keep eating unhealthy the rest of the day and keep that bad trend going into Monday. (B.) Accept that you’re not perfect and decide to move forward, eating clean and healthy the rest of the day setting yourself up for a successful week ahead. Well, all too often I notice that clients choose option A, which leads to a downward spiral that sabotages their results. Why do we do this to ourselves? I am not a psychologist, but I can tell you the mind games can ruin us!  When we don’t measure up to our expectations of perfection, we go to the other extreme and just keep blowing it out–choosing all the wrong foods, eating and drinking away our frustrations with ourselves.
Here’s some encouragement for you if you struggle with this vicious cycle. Learn to focus on IMPROVEMENT rather than PERFECTION. Make better decisions if you blow it one day. Choose to be better on Monday than you were on Sunday. Choose to find a positive rather than focus on the negative. Don’t get me wrong, I expect ALOT of my clients and myself, but I’m not asking for perfection. Let’s focus on improving  each day rather than getting stuck/held back by our failures! Change your mindset and just watch what you can accomplish 🙂

Thanks to a friend for sharing a great Bible verse with me last week that speaks to this very topic. 2 Corinthians 12:9-10 says “But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weakness, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” I love these verses because they encourage us to focus on Christ and his perfection rather than our weakness. When we depend on ourself, we are weak. When we depend on HIM, we are STRONG!

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